Good afternoon lovelies! I hope you all are doing well. Have I mentioned to you guys how much of a nerd/geek I am? I am a huge fantasy genre fanatic. You know, LOTR, The Hobbit, etc. I even played Dungeons and Dragons as a teen. I have an enormous fantasy/science fiction library, and I prefer the books to the movies, in most cases. Why am I telling you all this? If anything, this is about as far removed from beauty/wellness/chronic conditions as one can get. I’ll tell you why.
I prefer to have music playing when I write. It helps to keep the juices flowing and I will not get distracted by what might be on my tv screen, and get sucked in for hours haha. I like Pandora because of the endless variety of music available. My favorite station on Pandora? The Lord of the Rings Radio hehehe I got it up and running and just had to giggle to myself. I thought “yep, I really am that person, and I am 100% okay with that”! I have always been one to follow my own heart, rather than what may be trendy or cool.
My dad and I never really got along. I don’t know why. We never really connected in any way, except one. Books. Specifically fantasy and science fiction novels. In fact, when I was a preteen, he gave me his Lord of the Rings trilogy. I devoured those novels, over and over, until I lost them. My hubby (then boyfriend) was in a car accident and I think they were in his truck when it was towed away … sigh. Around the same time, my uncle introduced me to Terry Brooks and the Shannara series. The genre had me, hook, line and sinker.
There are a few things I love about this genre. One is being transported to another universe, similar to ours, but different enough to act as an escape from the drudgery of normal, everyday life. Another thing is obviously magic and dragons hahaha! One very important reason I love this genre is the characters are unapologetically themselves. There are fairies, dwarfs, elves, ogres, dragons, vampires, werewolves … you get the idea. For the most part, each of these creatures is totally comfortable in who they are. They don’t worry about fitting in, following trends, being cool. They are themselves, and no one else. Well, unless it’s a shape-shifter of some sort hehe
Learning how to be yourself is such a valuable process. It’s hard to be comfortable in our own skin when we are constantly bombarded with the opposite message by the media. “Lose 5 pounds this weekend!” “Styles for spring you MUST have” Images of women who have been photoshopped to fit an unattainable beauty standard are everywhere. Thankfully, some models are pushing back and have a “no photoshop” clause in their contracts. There’s nothing wrong with losing a few pounds, or following fashion trends, if that is who you are and what you like. The problem comes in when it becomes pressure. Pressure to conform. Pressure to fit in. Pressure to be someone you are not.
I consider myself lucky, in that I never really felt the need to hide who I am, or try to be someone I’m not. That’s not easy for a lot of people. It can take years before they really know who they are, what they believe in and what they stand for. I think it’s a really hard process to go through later in life, but it is worth it!! There is great freedom in being you. You never have to worry if you’re doing it right!
So who am I? I am a mother, wife, friend, hippie, huge nerd, comic-con attender, book lover, make up lover, body positive chubby chic, LGBT+ ally, practitioner of loving kindness, spreader of positivity, rose colored glasses wearer, chronic disease warrior and chronic pain fighter. Who am I not? I am not a trend follower, catty, jealous, a gossiper, a drama queen or a hater. I am 100% comfortable in my own skin and who I have grown into being.
Who are you? Are you happy with who you are? What was your journey like, to becoming the you that you love? Lemme know!